Rantings of an annoyed girl who just doesn't understand!
How many times have you been subjected to these words? I guess it became quite the trend after Rahul told Anjali, "Tum nahi samjhogi Anjali, kuch kuch hota hai". Well, I don't know about you, but I find myself rather annoyed when I am told off with a 'you won't understand'. If I have brought it on myself by butting in uninvited where I shouldn't, I control the urge to roll my eyes and keep a smile plastered to my face and do the world famous Indian head bobble. But, if I was invited into a conversation and then told that I won't understand, it really pisses me off. Why does it piss me off? Read on:
1. So I was wondering why people say it anyway, despite dragging someone into a conversation. I mean, why even start this subject with them if you don't think them mentally able enough to 'understand'? And why would anyone like it if it is implied in a rather unsubtle tone that they are incapable of the emotional, cultural, physical, mental, supernatural or whatever understanding! So don't blame me if you don't understand why I rolled my eyes and took off while you were still blabbering with a smirk on my face.
2. I get it. Your situation is so unique that no one in the Milky Way galaxy has been through what you are facing right now! Which might be what, job issues? Boyfriend trouble? Weight problem? Career choices? Arranged marriage? Love marriage? UFO sighting? I mean, c'mon! Either don't tell me stuff if you think that it's not my cup of tea or give me some credit for bearing your rantings and 'ooh'ing and 'aah'ing at the right places, even if I have never burnt my face while taking steam for a blocked nose or never faced the dilemma of choosing the right cream for your complicated skin type.
3. Of course it is my fault when I begin really sympathising and start giving you suggestions to help your 'situation'. And just when I am trying to sort it out with you, you hit me with the classic: You won't understand. *Grrr*! Why? Because it was not suggestions what you were looking for? Because all you needed was a shoulder to cry on a shirt to wipe your nose on? And because I actually felt sorry for you and tried to help, you told me off with a 'you won't understand'? Of course it is my bad. Should I apologise for not being able to 'understand' and trying to help instead? *Sarcasm*
4. You are not my teacher or parent. I have not sought your help to teach me how the world works. So, please don't try to patronise me and that too, after boring me with your oh - so - different sob story. Because not only might I not understand, but guess what, I might neither give a damn.
The bottom line is, nobody likes to hear that they won't understand. It is rather demeaning if you ask me, spoken in whichever tone. And never ever ever say it if you expect that person to listen you out, help you or in the long term - take you seriously.
Actually, why am I giving you so much gyaan. You have never been in my situation. You won't understand.
P.S.: Now you know how it feels? :P
